When we are talking solely about social relationships, we engage in communication. Whereas, when we talk about human relationships we engage in consultation. If there is no common ground, between someones two noospheres, and the other does not produce something, then we have a consultation problem.
In relations theory, when we produce a group, and when we produce a get together of contacts, we don’t have the same requirements.
In the group, we want our other self, we want our other ego.
Therefore, quite often, amongst contacts we have people who seem alike.
In the group we don’t opt for people who are alike, we are looking for people who are our complementary.
That is, who obtain properties that we lack.
The typical example is this: You can easily imagine a company of eleven goalkeepers, who will talk about all the goals they have lost, or saved.
Therefore, a set of eleven goalkeepers can never be a group.
The goalkeeper – who is the odd one out first up, mathematically speaking, since he is the only one who is playing football with his hands – looking out for people, who are not abnormal.
That is, people who play with their feet.
So, he is looking out for people who don’t have the same attributes.
Just imagine all of them having the same characteristics.
They would’ve all been stuck in the goal post, all eleven of them.
The idea then, is that too often we try to find someone who is the same with us.
And what we don’t understand is that, when he is the same as us, then that is the perfect way to get bored with him.
So when we are in search for the other who is complementary and different, then he obtains other properties.